your move!

scenario: you're on a date, and it gets to the point in the night when you're "supposed" to kiss. this could be on a doorstep, or inside the front hall, or even on a couch after a movie is over. typically it is expected that the boy will make the first move, and kiss the girl. but... what if he doesn't? is it ok for a girl to make the move?

i decided to write about this in wake of a conversation i had with a few of my guy friends. my one friend in particular (we will refer to him as "M") was telling me that he NEVER makes the move with girls. i was shocked, because he is very attractive, and tons of girls like him. he actually even has a reputation for kissing quite a few girls (bless his little heart haha i love the kid!). so M has kissed all these girls, and says that he has actually only made the move himself with about 35% of them; the remaining girls have all kissed him. i was completely blown away! how does he get these girls to make the move? and i didnt think guys liked girls that did!

so is it ok for girls to make the move? i can honestly say i have only even made the move once.. and i was 19 years old and feeling pretty confident! needless to say the kid actually denied me in the most awkward way possible! (he put his hand up and stopped me!! can you just imagine how embarrassed i was!?) i've vowed to never make the move again, and i never have. i have a small understanding now of why guys get so nervous on first kisses too! being rejected is probably one of the worst feelings in the world too, because it completely cuts down your self-confidence momentarily to nothing!!

going back to my conversation with my friend M, i was curious how exactly he gets girls to kiss him, instead of vice versa. he said he sends out the "vibes" that he is interested in kissing the girl, but also picks up on subtle hints that girls send out that they are interested as well. M says that if you are cuddling with someone, this is like a gateway to kissing: its almost an automatic greenlight that this person wants to kiss you, and will. M also explained that there are other vibes that can be picked up on or sent out, such as : "tickling" the arms, face, and neck by lightly grazing the fingertips across the skin; putting chapstick on or bringing any attention to your lips (ie biting your bottom lip while talking, or looking at the other person's lips every so often when you are talking to them). M's theory (which he has apparently continued to prove) is that if you put out enough of the vibes, the other person will eventually kiss you. therefore, he gets these girls to kiss him, and he is off the hook with making the move.

at first i thought M was hilarious, and i joked around with him and we roleplayed each of the "vibes" that he explained. we may have been joking around with each other, but i started thinking about this whole conversation, and he is totally right! if you are to put out all the vibes, the other person will pick up on them (hopefully) and kiss you! that's exactly what i do when i am in these situations, because i will not make the move!

so, if any ladies are reading this, i would love to hear you opinions on this. do you ever make the move? or do you like to?? and guys, do you like girls to make the move?

that's all for today! love you all!

xoxo