Tuesday, November 3, 2009

just friends?

recently i have been thinking alot lately about dating and relationships, especially in regards to being "just friends" or more than friends.

for example, my friends kim and van just recently got married after dating for a little under a year. however, they had been friends for close to 3 years before they started dating. they randomly ended up kissing during our lake powell trip last year, and for a few weeks both denied that they liked each other, and they said that they were "just friends". really??

i dont think i believe in the whole "we're just friends" cop-out excuse. because in all reality, you're never just friends. there has to be some sort of attraction, or feelings between you two if youre hooking up with one another. and maybe it always ends up that one of the two involved has feelings, but the other doesn't. or maybe they both have feelings for one another, and they are afraid to bring it up in case the other doesn't want a relationship.

kind of seems like an endless cycle, until the one day that both realize they have feelings for one another and take the next step in their relationship. or they realize they are on different pages, and they end their little fling.

in kim and van's case, they finally admitted after a few months that they were in love... and now they are married happily! in other cases, someone may end up with a broken heart, and quite possibly a lost friendship. perhaps that is one of the main reasons friends try and stay "just friends" because they dont want to lose their friendship. but if you don't try and take a risk, then you'll live the rest of your life wondering what could have happened.

just some thoughts for you guys! xoxo